Digital Detox!

 We as humans focus on so many things when it comes to our physical appearance because nowadays everyone wants to look good, and for that women usually go to saloons, and parlors, dress well obviously "jaise dikhte ho, vaisa hi log sochte apko lekr! that's why with this mindset people usually focus so much on their physical appearance and how they look! they can do anything to look good, from drinking bitter beetroot juice for good skin to cycling in the early morning to look fit! People usually try so many things. Even in recent years, people have started focussing on their mental health as well, because anxiety and depression are becoming more severe than physical disability. After all, it can't be shown or detected. Even a person suffering from it doesn't realize its initial stage until it's become severe and noticed by everyone from anger, loudness, etc. 

There are many reasons for this, like relationship, family, career, and so on! But most importantly as our world becomes digitalized.  It connects people around the world to cyber attacks! Everything has its pros and cons! In this competitive environment where everyone wants to be on top, look beautiful, and have so many followers on their social sites nowadays, It is super important to keep our mental health as our first priority otherwise it becomes a severe issue because "Prevention is better than cure!"

Now the question arises how do we detox or save our mental health from these Digital Monsters? We have so many options we use ginger, basal leaves, ayurvedic medicines, and endless things to detox our physical from chemicals but we get blank when we have to detox our mental health from harmful digitalization. Isn't?

Digital detoxing is a process of intentionally reducing or eliminating the use of digital devices to improve mental well-being. Here are some steps you can take to implement a digital detox for better mental health:

1. Set Clear Goals: Define the purpose of your digital detox. Whether it's to reduce stress, improve sleep, or enhance focus, having a clear goal will help you stay motivated.

2. Create Boundaries: Establish specific timeframes or zones where digital devices are not allowed. This could be during meals, an hour before bedtime, or during certain activities.

3. Identify Problematic Apps or Platforms: Identify the apps or platforms that contribute most to your digital stress. Consider deleting or limiting your use of these applications.

4. Schedule Screen-Free Time: Allocate specific time blocks during the day when you'll be completely offline. Use this time for activities that promote relaxation, such as reading a book, going for a walk, or spending time with loved ones.

5. Set Notification Limits: Reduce the frequency of notifications on your devices. Turn off non-essential notifications to minimize distractions and interruptions.

6. Create a Tech-Free Bedroom: Make your bedroom a tech-free zone. Avoid using electronic devices at least an hour before bedtime to improve the quality of your sleep.

7. Establish Tech-Free Rituals: Develop daily rituals that don't involve screens, such as meditation, journaling, or enjoying a cup of tea. These activities can help you unwind without relying on digital devices.

8. Engage in Offline Hobbies: Rediscover or explore offline hobbies and activities that bring you joy and relaxation. This could be anything from painting and gardening to playing a musical instrument.

9. Prioritize Face-to-Face Interaction: Make an effort to spend more time with friends and family in person. Face-to-face interactions can provide a deeper sense of connection and support.

10. Evaluate and Reflect: Regularly assess the impact of your digital detox on your mental health. Reflect on changes in your mood, sleep patterns, and overall well-being.

1. If going completely offline feels overwhelming, consider starting with smaller steps. Gradually reduce screen time and increase offline activities over time!

Let's Detox ourselves from harmful Digital Monsters!

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Thanks for Reading!!

                                  

I failed...?

As humans, everyone wants life to be like a fairy tale: perfect family, physique, academics, and so on. The list is endless if we ask anyone about what the perfect life should be! and it can't be a surprise to say that no one wants to fail in their life. it's an irony! Life is not a fairy tale, that goes smoothly, it gives you a roller coaster ride! At some point in time, everyone tastes failure in their life, and getting back again is the real spirit. isn't?

But it is tough to apply in practical life as it comes with lots of anxiety, taunts, depression, etc. Life is not the same for everyone, some have to deal with lots of family pressure, health issues, poverty, and many more, Success is different for everyone, some get family support, and some fight their battles alone! 

Everyone sees their life as success and failure, achievements and battles, for me it is lessons and success.

Completed schooling at one of the prestigious schools in India, and was a topper in studies to all extracurricular activities whether, in debate competitions, essay competitions, or representing the school at the national level, my success graph is going only in the upward direction, every time I participated in any competition, one award is fixed by my side. I was a favorite student of every teacher, and my parents are super proud to have a daughter like me in their life. everything was going so smoothly!

But waiittttttttttt.... life is not a fairytale, welcome to the competitive world my dear self, getting the taste of success in every scenario of life, I was so confident to get that whatever I do in my life!

Doing my preparation from day one of the year, even sacrificing my basic likes, avoiding all the festivals, and family time, giving excuses to friends to save time for study, having a morning with books and mocks to ending my day analyzing those mocks and making to-do list for next day. this is how my whole time goes. I was super confident that I would break that particular exam in my very first attempt. 

why not? I am scoring more than enough marks in my mocks, doing my all things with full honesty. 

finally, the day came when I took my exam with calmness, confidence, and faith in god and myself.

I was happy with my preparation and my performance during the exam hall. I was so happy that I called my Big B and said "yeh vla to nikl gya exam"!

The result came...and guess what? I failed....!!!!!!!! Yes, the girl who always succeeds in her life, failed by just 0.75 marks!!! Yes, exactly what you are reading is just 0.75 marks, the cutoff was 36.88 and I scored 36.13 marks!

I shivered, blankly, and cried "Why me"? But now what? not cried in so many years, tears came from my eyes, I was silent... taking a deep breath, yes, I have to hide my tears from my parents, I am a big girl now, how can I share that I felt broken, deeply sad, without knowing what was my fault? 

Our generation is not perfect in so many things but we are perfect in hiding our emotions, and our pain from our parents and close ones. 

After having this bitter taste, I can't stop here. One thing constantly running through my mind is that "It's good to fail in the early stage because you know how to cope up with that, instead of failing in your 50s!!

With the spirit in me and desire to succeed in my eyes, a girl with double enthusiasm, who can't settle for ordinary, will stand and fight back again!

                                        Giving up is not in my book!

        For me, Mindset is everything, just change your mindset and you are halfway done, my friend!!

    and most importantly, don't lose your spirit, and your inner self because in the darkest days of your life, it is only you, who lift you up always!! 

    

                                              

"Hey Dost, Thankyou"!!

Whenever we talk our friendship there are so many Bollywood songs flash in our mind like "tere jaisa yaar kha" n so on...I think there will be a big list of that..isn't it? We, are very much close to our friends even more than our parents! Everyone have their friends small circle of two or three or big like Jupiter! Like everyone I am also blessed with some gems in my life, Muskan, Utkarsh, Vivek, Saheba! They are always besides me no matter what, "phsyco h na sale" dimaag se ni, dil se sochte h! And the best part is "No matter how much their life are going hell, they will always cheers you up in your hards! "Jyda se jyda kya hoga, koi na, tu kr legi 😊" and never stop saying"tere se kuch ni ho skta, tu rehen de"🤣. You guys given me so many memories that always bring smile and cheers me up! Every one's says, "Reading a book can change your bad habits, but if you have one good friend then it is equal to 100 books! And I am super blesssed to have phsyco muckins in my life! I am super excited in writing this blog!

 It's a Thank you blog for my gems, Thank you ❤️ Muskan bae for  being my bestie since  childhood and standing with me in every storms of my life! You are like sister from another mother for me! 

Second thanks goes to "Saccha yaar,  Utkarsh! Thanks for being a rock in my tough times, for taking me out from that garbage, as you were also facing the same but you cheer me up and always ready to hear my non sense stuffs patiencely, I really appreciate you for this! Thank you 😌! 

Oh, it's getting too much emotional, let's talk about most sexy Munda of our group, "bole to broh h apna, Vivek broh❣️" Hey, thank you for putting guts in me and making me bold so that I don't get afraid from any people n situation, this guy put much potential, energy, enthusiasm, and bravery in me that, I am super Happy and loving the changes of boldness in me! Best part in him is, always ready to cheer you up, and love to boost me by saying "tu kar, baki hum dekh lenge"! Thank you broh!

And the last but not the least meet the legend lady, Saheba Hussain❣️, if you sad, low or anything, this girl's always put you high and happy by her talks, her incidents, things! Her life discussion will be my tea or bed time Stories for my kids for sure!!

Thank you girl, for giving so much reason for smile! 💙

Thanks so much gems 💎 for being a essential part in my life, I owe you all!!

Guys, I am writing this post, so that my people get to know how much they mean to me, and my request is to you all, do some thing whether small or big doesn't matter for your gems, because they too are deserving and small things bring you more close to each other! 

And after reading this blog, some will say, "yaar ab baat ni hoti dost se, bonding itni ni rhi" so, it's my humble request to you guys "pehle jaisi dosti ni rhi to kya, dost to vhi purana hai na"! So, put your first step some closer to your "yaar" and start your "yarana" once again, because it's never too late, might be she/he is waiting for your response? Kuch bhi ho skta! 

At last, it's my humble request along with strong warning to Utkarsh and Vivek broh, come soon lucknow, missing you both, badly!  

Thank you, My gems ❤️

"Somewhere Men are also helpless..."

"Men are the most powerful being in this world. Men are never be helpless, they use their power to protect others, even they do domestic violence too on women. You are wrong, Soumya, even Women are one who need helps, they need attention, etc, etc.." These are the words said by my Friend Arya, when I talked about Men, to him. Is he is right? Actually Men don't need any rights? They don't need attention, help? Actually when we talked about rights or secondary being, our attention mainly goes towards women and children. And no doubt our government has made so many laws for women, children to empowered them. As we all know that every coins have two sides. Government has provided so many rights to empowered them but there are so many women in our society who are not even aware about their rights and suffers a lot. But what happen when women knows too much about her rights and use it as a weapon in a negative way? Exactly, what you are thinking is right, then Men suffers😂

 

Its a serious topic but irony is that if someone start to discuss this topic then people will laugh and put this aside! We all know that, we celebrate women's day on 8th march but Is anyone know when we celebrate Men's day?  We celebrate International Men's day on 19th of November.  There are so many false cases which are made by women on men's family by using their rights as their weapon! And by doing so, there are so many women who really deserve that, have to suffer. In my views, the problem is that government made rights to empowered women but some women are using it as their weapon in a wrong way and other side lots of them are even aware about their rights. Things are not in a balanced form. One more thing I want to share in here is that Our Indian government, Courts are so strong, they can tell us what is right and wrong but before their decision, please take your decision on the basis of what majority are saying.  Somewhere Men are right, somewhere women are right. Women are not weak, they are strongest creature on this earth. We perform "durga puja" or do "Saraswati vandana" etc. because women always give their love, blessings,  charm to everyone. Its true Men are physically strong but there is no doubt when men felt depressed or low, woman is always with him☺️. So, God, a best creature have give everyone some strength to help others and weakness, so that other help them!!!

 

Kindly, give their love to all the Men in your life because they also deserve that.

 

Yes, its true they can't express much, just try to understand them, love them, respect them, care them!! ☺️☺️

नारी छोटी, नर बड़ा???

नारी छोटी नर बड़ा,

नारी छोटी नर बड़ा!

बड़ा ग़लत यह भेद!

दोनो एक सामान हैं

कहते शुत्र और वेद

कहते शुत्र और वेद,

हैं बराबर के यह दोनो पहिये

अगर हो छोटे - बड़े,

चले क्यूँ गाड़ी कहिए??

जो करते यह भेद,

हुई उनकी मत खोटी!

जन्मा जिससे नर,

वोह नारी कैसे छोटी ??

नारी निन्दा ना करो,

नारी नर की ख़ान!

नारी से नर होत्त हैं,

ध्रुव, प्रहलाद सामान!

हैं नारी, तेरे उपहारों से बोझिल,

सत्कार तेरा हम करते हैं!

हैं प्रथम शिक्षक, प्रथम गुरू,

तुझे नमन हम करते हैं,

तुझे नमन हम करते हैं!!

This poem, written by my Dad. This poem is dedicated to all the wonderful women in this wold, weather she is a teacher, Mother, or any one else! God gifted us a wonderful creature which is a WOMEN! Share this poem to your love ones and thanks them to be a special part in your life!!🙂🙂

Depression : A Slow Poison!

Sushant Singh suicide gave us a huge impact in our mind how an actor suicide?.

 He have everything which is a dream of any youngster..

 Name, Fame, everything..  He was a foolish.!! Its a normal thinking of people.

 People deals with happiness with materialistic things . If they have, they will be happy.. Everyone knows about physical health because we can see it easily. but what about mental health??  No one is talking about that.  And if someone talk about that.. his or her mind is not working properly or if he feels some sort of stress,  people usually say "pagal hai" Somewhere it is also a major cause people afraid to talk about it. 

Sushant, a well polished actor suicide,  Media, Tv news everyone came in support of him.. And his friends were saying "kash Sushant ne share kia hota apni problem" but if he shared, he knows the effect after that. 

Kota students  suicide every year just because a pressure in their mind, they fight within ourself and when they lose they finished them self! Biggest question in our elders mind why youngters finished themselves in small small things? 

They don't know how to fight.! Yes, somewhere we don't know how to fight with our problems, we get stress in a small things yes! We get suicide thoughts when ever we feel low and we never deny it.. Because we all are not fighting with any human or any things, We are fighting within ourself. 

 But if you(elders) are much more mature, much more experience, why don't teach us to fight with obstacles? You don't get enough time to sit with us talk with love? After Sushant's death I have saw many status based on " if friends have problems I will be there" but my question is why always our eyes get open when we lost so precious gem from this world.? 

And after few days everything gets normal... We all are willing to help others.. But when time came for help we back out! You know, we don't have to go anywhere just see beside our friends our family members this critical time we all are facing sort of mental health weather its small or large. But we can't deny it we are facing it! Just try to talk others with love, don't wait for people to come in front you to discuss their problem, may be your little love full kind  words brings shower in their life! People are gems in your life, respect them love them.. because KARMA works! What we give, we get back! I am lucky to have such a beautiful family and friends in my life. they are precious gems....in my life! Just find gems in your life, they were not far from you, they are beside you. but most important just SPEAK OUT!!!!! And love yourself first.! 

        ज़िन्दगी के बहुत रंग देखे...

       कभी ख़ुशी कभी गम देखे!... 

DREAM...!!

Dream..!!!! A dream which everyone see in our childhood. Some one want to become Doctor someone want to become Engineer and so one... List is endless.. And its impossible to  describe all the dreams of everyone. Some dreams saw by our parents, teachers..and lots of people in our life who loves us they want to fulfil their own dreams through us..their intentions are pure but when it become a pressure for a child.. No one knows..like everyone I also saw some dreams in childhood and want to fulfill that.. I want to become a doctor not because to help people but because If someone scolds me I will gave them an injections.. Its quiet funny! My other dream was to become a librarian...😂  just because I am fond of books...and in my childhood I thought librarian is so lucky. 

He can read any book without purchasing it.😂 . One more dream is to become big as soon as possible so that I will be free...no boundation nothing.. I will have my money..  I will go where ever I want..etc.. I will be so happy .

Now, I have my money, I can go every where I want... but the Irony is that...now I am not happy as in my childhood... Now I want to stay in home.. Spend time with my family,  love to spend time with friends.. Small candies gave happiness.. in childhood... In chasing dreams and want to get more as compared to a person beside us. Its we call a success and happiness!  But when we got that we want more.. n more and this cycle never ends.. Now I only want to live my childhood again.. 

Having family.."Ma ke hath ka khna" "Papa ka hug".. Now childhood is a dream every one wants to live again. But unfortunately time never travel back.

.Atlast I only want to say..live your life with fullest...this lockdown give us opportunity to spend our time with family..do as much as you can... 

     Kyuki.." Bachpan me Ghar se bahar niklne ki chah me....

 Ab ghr aane ko jee chahta h..!